I LOVE YOU but IT’S OVER !!!!
September 15, 2007 by wmwatchn
BEFORE - You take my breath away AFTER - I feel like I’m suffocating
BEFORE - Twice a night AFTER - Twice a month
BEFORE - She says she loves the way I take control of a situation AFTER - She calls me a controlling, manipulative egomaniac
BEFORE - Don’t stop AFTER - Don’t start
BEFORE - Is that all you’re having? AFTER - Maybe you should have just a salad!
BEFORE - It’s like I’m living in a dream AFTER - It’s like she lives in a dorm
BEFORE - $25/doz. AFTER - $1.50/stem
BEFORE - We agree on everything AFTER - Doesn’t she have a mind of her own?
BEFORE -Victoria’s Secret AFTER - Fruit-of-the-Loom, So-En
BEFORE - Idol AFTER - Idle
BEFORE - I love a woman with curves AFTER - I never said you were fat
BEFORE - Time stood still AFTER - This relationship is going nowhere
BEFORE - Croissant and cappuccino AFTER - Bagel and instant
BEFORE - You look so seductive in black AFTER - Your clothes are so depressing
BEFORE - Oysters AFTER - Fishsticks
BEFORE - Passion AFTER - Ration
BEFORE - Once upon a time AFTER - The end
Relationships are one of the most complex aspects of our lives. To decide to end up a relationship when you fall out of love is easier than being caught in the middle. Middle of what? Between your mind and heart, of course! So, are you having this “too good to leave, too bad to stay” dilemma?? I think it is time to let go even when its so hard to do because some part of you will be in love with that person for the rest of your life, but the daydreaming, the running in place .. it’s not healthy!!
Being in a relationship is not an easy thing. It requires effort and commitment of both partners. One person can’t carry it alone. There should be a mutual attraction (physical, sexual, intellectual, etc), respect, interest, compromise etc. When one of these factors is missing, be ready for trouble.You might even try to save a relationship because you love the person who is not receptive but I think such attempts will be doomed to fail . Even if you will succeed, you will feel a tremendous toll that drags you down the dumps!
Do you know when to break up? It can be a very dismal area, especially if you have invested a lot of time and emotions in your relationship.
I will try to cite out some points which I think are very important to consider whether to cut off or continue; to leave or to stay.
1. Physical abuse: Hitting. Slapping. Punching. Kicking. Shoving/Pushing. Quick, get out now! If you are a masochist, stay!
2. Verbal abuse. Common in many relationships. If you are constantly being put down by someone - break up! If you are too proud and feel like God, then you need this kind of humiliation, stay!
3. No Respect. If there is no mutual respect in your relationship, if you are disillusioned or disgusted by your partner, the work to gain that respect back is very difficult to achieve. Leave! If you are dumb, stay!
4. No Trust. If you do not trust your partner or vice-versa, imagine how many arguments and sleepless nights you both will have. Who needs that? If you can’t forgive each other’s transgressions, then resentment will gradually replace love. Leave. If you suffer from insomnia, stay!
5. No fun together. A relationship that’s no fun is dead. Leave. If you are suicidal, stay!
6. No shared goals and dreams. If you aren’t planning to spend your future together, something’s terribly wrong. Take off! Are you commitmentphobe?, stay!
I believe a relationship should enhance your life, not drain it. You’ll do a lot more good giving yourself to someone who’s more receptive to what you have to offer and who genuinely appreciates you for it.
If you’re spending your relationship fighting resistance more than sharing love, you’re probably better off letting it go and embracing a relationship that will provide greater mutual rewards for less work or live alone!
“Unless you have one love, big faith, and endless hope which supersedes everything, no matter what the circumstances are, you will find your answer. But then again, can you love enough to go willingly insane?”
If you are going to ask me, honestly: “I CAN NOT!!!!”
